InterFEARance

 "Your Freedom ends where my nose begins", this was a famous quote I heard quite sometime back.


My understanding of it is, freedom is a shared space in the society where every individual is allowed to think and act according to one's wish. 


One is free to do anything that does not "interfere" with other's freedom. Hence my freedom ends where the other person's nose begins. Fair enough.


Coming from a Science background, I learnt that Efficiency(Actual/Expected *100) is never 100%. 


The "loss" in the scientific system make it less than 100%
where as the "laws" in our socialistic system make the efficient usage of freedom less than 100%.


The hypothetical infinite freedom has now become a definite and everyone is required to act within a large boundary so to say. 


In spite of that, everyone is tied to few others through a social, professional,ethical, moral and perhaps a religious thread too. These strings when attached dilutes or even reduces freedom space one has. 


The lessening of freedom is more because of Interference. As a kid, one is more meddled with parents and elders with regards to behaviour, discipline and uprightness. The obvious reason to cite, since the elders are more "mature" than the kid and since they have seen the world more. 


Biologically a kid is mature in the teens, but for a psychological and rational maturity, it is not age that matters, but the experience that matters. 
Nevertheless, there is never 100% maturity since learning and empowerment of knowledge is an unending process.


Adolescence is the age of threshold maturity and that's when everyone seems to think that they are always right and they are the best judges of themselves.


The seed of ego(which everyone claim as self-respect) starts to grow. Then on, any good advice coming in, turns out to be an "Interference". When a mother tries to warn her child about late night comings, "Mom, I know what I am doing, stop giving advices". What was followed as a rule, will no longer be the same just because one is mature enough to know. This is debatable. Sometimes, one can feel that the other person(be it anyone) wouldn't know better than oneself. 


As long as it is "softly" preached there is no discomfort otherwise it leads to fear, hatred and enemity.


When Overindulgence and Micro-management, kills the freedom, it is no longer Interference but InterFEARance.


This is not just at individual level but is more predominantly seen and witnessed at global level.


Some countries with an entitlement of "Developed or Super Power" tend to "interfere" and force certain norms on the other countries in an attempt to have a common ideology and thinking. It is always a welcome move.


But for sheer supremacy, instead of educating about the goals and prospects, they tend to dictate in various aspects starting from culture, religion and lifestyle and thereby hurting the "sentiments and emotions". 
That is when the recipient sees a FEAR in the Interfering Individual. 
Often battles/wars happen when these are hurt. 


A universal(I say universal since I heard about it in majority of countries through TV shows) situation that I can think of is the "सास बहू जगदा "(Mother-in-Law & Daughter-in-Law Quarrel). 
Initially my immature mind thought it was only restricted to the Indian society, but after watching "Everybody Loves Raymond", I understood it can happen anywhere. 


Both tend to compete each other by "InterFEARing" with other's motives and actions for supremacy. If one can respect the other person's actions and let them have a little amount of freedom on the common goal, neither would feel deprived of freedom. 
The so called unity and family structure stays intact and strong.


This is just an illustration but the same is true between groups of individuals, cultures, nations, religions and many more. Only then a balance, peace and harmony can be maintained and bettered.


By not only letting the other person have the freedom, a soft denial of advice will not throw into warlike situation. Both parties need to know the cause for resistance rather than fight over it.


When properly understood and acted with a rational maturity, it is no longer InterFEARance.
Hope PEACE Prevail.